And now have that intercourse to you. I would try to be sure you choose to engage in, and whoever it is you choose to have sex with that you feel the same way about any sex.
With you if you decide intercourse or other kinds of sex with him are things you do strongly want to do, and with him, but have specific concerns about, you need both the time to really talk about your concerns, as well as for him to really hear them, value them, and invest real time in talking about them. Which means he’s got to pipe straight down about their wants and tune in to you, actually considering what you need and require, too.
We imagine you might be feeling as if you’re now afraid for the relationship no real matter what you state. It feels like, because of the method this has been going, and exactly just what he’s been saying, that you could feel in the same way afraid that saying no to intercourse with him will harm your relationship while you feel saying yes might. And in case you are feeling like that, i am therefore sorry you are: that is a lousy spot to maintain.
If you should be feeling by doing this, however, the things I’d try to keep in mind is it:
Whatever your right response is, on your own, according to that which you undoubtedly feel most readily useful about, it can’t be the incorrect solution. Read the rest of this entry